DEAR ABBY: I’ve been in a dating with the similar guy for 15 years. For the closing six, we’ve got been dwelling in combination. He’s a machinist who owns his personal trade and works strict hours of eight a.m. to five p.m., Monday-Friday. Sometimes he locks his doorways at five and works an hour or two later, however he doesn’t name to let me know he’s operating overdue. I’ve instructed him calling is commonplace courtesy. Sometimes he does it, however extra frequently he does no longer. He thinks it’s “ridiculous” that I might marvel the place he’s, and if I need to know, I will be able to name his store.
Last Saturday morning he used to be up at 6 a.m. and instructed me he had to pressure 100 miles north of right here to have a look at a “project” for a buyer to peer if he can repair it. When I requested what the mission used to be, he mentioned he didn’t know. This man is any individual he has just lately began a friendship with. It appeared unusual that he wouldn’t let me pass alongside for the journey. He mentioned he’d have his telephone on him, and I may just name anytime to peer the place he used to be.
When I didn’t pay attention from him all day, I began calling round 7 p.m. and 3 times after that, however he didn’t select up. He pulled again into our driveway round 10 p.m. and instructed me he used to be serving to the man transfer cows, and he would have known as me at the means house however his telephone died.
I’m disappointed. He had dinner with them, and they’ve a landline he will have used. I instructed him how harm I used to be and that I think disrespected. He says he deserved an afternoon to himself. He thinks I’m being ridiculous. Am I? Do I no longer deserve a telephone name? — WAITING AND WAITING IN MONTANA
DEAR WAITING: You don’t seem to be ridiculous. It used to be inconsiderate of him to not name, however you mentioned it doesn’t occur at all times. You are his woman good friend, no longer his keeper. If he wishes an afternoon to himself, it may benefit your dating to chop him some slack. And when it occurs once more, time table one thing amusing for your self so that you aren’t sitting via the telephone.
DEAR ABBY: Our circle of relatives and prolonged circle of relatives are all extremely knowledgeable folks with complex levels. My son’s spouse didn’t pass to university, and whilst she is surely great, she butchers the English language.
My granddaughter will likely be finding out to speak quickly, and I’m wondering what’s one of the best ways to manner the placement. I don’t need to offend my daughter-in-law, however I additionally don’t need my granddaughter finding out mistaken grammar. What are your ideas on how you can care for this downside? — UNSURE ON THE WEST COAST
DEAR UNSURE: Because your circle of relatives and prolonged circle of relatives are well-educated and grasp complex levels, the extra time your grandchild spends with all of you, the simpler her possibilities of finding out right kind grammar. Do no longer communicate “baby talk” together with her. Read to her and provides her books as items. If her mom reads them to her daughter, they each could have a greater likelihood of finding out excellent grammar. Being round her well-educated father can even lend a hand, and as soon as she’s at school, it is going to be bolstered.
The handiest factor you must NOT do is say anything else that may make your son’s spouse self-conscious about her upbringing as a result of should you do, you’ll be seeing so much much less of that little circle of relatives.
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