DEAR ABBY: I’ve been with my husband for 20 years, married for 8 of them. He thinks his mom can do no mistaken. She takes footage of me after I least be expecting it, after which posts the worst ones on Facebook. She laughs and thinks it’s humorous, however I’m in point of fact harm by way of it.
To make it worse, his sister does the similar to me now. They continuously have their telephones pointed towards me, and when faced, they deny taking footage or insist all footage were deleted.
I’ve all the time supported my husband’s dating along with his circle of relatives, however I don’t really feel like they enhance us being in combination. I’ve deleted his mom as a chum on Facebook and now not cross to circle of relatives purposes. My husband has the same opinion that what she’s doing is mistaken, however gives no enhance. His circle of relatives prides themselves on magnificence, however that is anything else however elegant. — CAUGHT OFF GUARD
DEAR CAUGHT: It isn’t elegant to willfully harm others, as your MIL and SIL were doing. Both seem to have a merciless streak, and that is their manner of needling you.
What troubles me is that you’ve got allowed them to force you clear of circle of relatives purposes, which I suppose your husband is attending with out you. Have any other communicate with him. Go to any other circle of relatives accumulating, and while you see the cameras geared toward you, inform them to chop it out. Your spineless husband must again you up on it, inform them that it isn’t humorous, and if there are any pictures of you on their FB pages, HE needs them deleted in an instant.
DEAR ABBY: I’m in an eight-year dating, and we proportion a 3-year-old kid in combination. We speak about marriage, however reality learn, I’m having doubts. He has a wandering eye, which is a complete turn-off for me.
For example, after we cross to a cafe and the waitress walks as much as help us, once she turns round, he routinely glues his eyes on her bottom. I don’t say anything else about it, but it surely’s so traumatic. Should I say anything else or simply proceed to faux that I don’t see? — BOTHERED IN LOUISIANA
DEAR BOTHERED: Many males ogle, however for many of them, it’s handiest their eye that wanders. Because it bothers you such a lot you would possibly not need to transfer the connection ahead, by way of all method talk up. Pretending to not realize has modified not anything. After 8 years of silence, I believe it’s time to set the daddy of your kid instantly, don’t you?
DEAR ABBY: I’ve superb neighbors. They personal a fish marketplace in Chinatown. Since they moved in 3 years in the past, he has given me fish virtually each different week. My catch 22 situation is, he speaks virtually no English, and she or he speaks handiest damaged English. Some of the fish he offers me I don’t use, so I be offering it to any other neighbor or throw it out.
I wish to inform him which fish I want, however don’t need to appear ungrateful or find it irresistible’s buying groceries from house. Any ideas on how you can care for this? — GRATEFUL IN NEW YORK
DEAR GRATEFUL: You may “innocently” point out which fish you particularly respect when he brings it to you, however instead of that, I believe you must be pleased about your neighbor’s generosity and fail to remember about “placing an order” for one thing you’re no longer paying for. You must additionally take some time to reciprocate somehow so the person and his spouse don’t seem to be doing all of the giving.
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