DEAR ABBY: On a current Saturday afternoon, two of my daughter’s 13-year-old buddies got here to our home. My daughter answered the door, and after being denied entry, each pushed their approach in.
During their keep, the women have been impolite and disrespectful, going by means of the fridge and pantry and serving to themselves to no matter they wished. My spouse and daughter repeatedly requested them to go away, however the ladies laughed and ignored the requests.
What do you recommend in an occasion corresponding to this with out getting bodily, as my spouse didn’t have their mother and father’ telephone numbers? (I used to be away on a piece journey throughout all of this.) — DISRESPECTED IN OUR HOME
DEAR DISRESPECTED: These are “friends”? Your spouse ought to have achieved what anybody ought to do when undesirable intruders burst into one’s house. She ought to have known as the police, had the women eliminated and filed a proper criticism. She also needs to have reported the incident to the varsity, gotten the mother and father’ telephone numbers and knowledgeable them about what occurred so it doesn’t occur to her and your daughter or another household once more. And by the best way, your daughter needs to be taught to by no means open the door except she WANTS to let somebody in.
DEAR ABBY: I’ve managed to tangle myself in a sticky state of affairs. Two shut buddies of mine have requested me to be a bridesmaid of their weddings.
When “Maya,” who has been an enormous assist system for me the previous two years by means of nursing faculty, knowledgeable me that she would ask me to be a bridesmaid as quickly as her “gift” for me got here within the mail, I yelped with pleasure. However, my childhood buddies “Lily” and “Byron” are engaged and have formally requested me to be a bridesmaid of their wedding ceremony on the SAME DAY that Maya stated she would ask me to be in HER wedding ceremony.
Unfortunately, I forgot that Maya’s date was the identical as Lily’s, and I informed each of those shut buddies I might stand beside them on their wedding ceremony day. How do I resolve whose wedding ceremony to attend? — DESPERATE BRIDESMAID IN VIRGINIA
DEAR BRIDESMAID: Yes, you ARE in a pickle. Now it’s essential to resolve who you REALLY wish to be with.
Frankly, from what you have got written, it appears you’re extra enthusiastic about Maya’s nuptials than Lily and Byron’s. Technically, you accepted Maya’s “almost invitation” earlier than you have been invited by Lily and Byron. But you’re by yourself in figuring out to whom you’re extra comfy giving your regrets and apologies.
DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend of three years obtained mad at me and destroyed all my late mom’s classic jewellery. It had been within the household for 70 years. He apologized once I returned house, however I don’t suppose he’s honest. What ought to I do? — STOLEN MEMORIES IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR STOLEN MEMORIES: Your boyfriend seems to have severe anger administration issues. What you need to do is understand that the longer you two are collectively, the better the possibilities of him damaging not solely extra of your property, but in addition even you. Continue this relationship ONLY if he begins anger administration courses. If he refuses, finish the romance.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also called Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
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