DEAR ABBY: I'm a 41-year-old girl who has been with my fiance for 8 years. Before we determined to grow to be a pair, I made transparent to him that if he had no purpose of shifting south as soon as my youngsters graduate, he must now not get right into a courting with me. When we were given in combination, I thought he understood and could be shifting with me. We have purchased automobiles in combination and a area. Earlier this 12 months, he took me on a cruise and proposed. Again I made it transparent about my plans to transport south and advised him to not give me a hoop if he didn’t plan on going.