DEAR ABBY: My father is in his 70s and lives shut by. My brother and his household stay throughout the nation. Dad has smoked for greater than 60 years, and an incident along with his hypertension not too long ago landed him within the hospital. He’s purported to be on treatment, however he refuses to take it.
He claims his pastime of taking part in the trumpet retains his lungs wholesome and up to date modifications in his food regimen have solved the blood stress points. Neither of this stuff appear more likely to me, and he has not been again to the physician. Dad hides his situation from everybody. I do know solely as a result of I used to be the one who was known as when he went to the hospital.
My brother not too long ago advised me Dad is planning to take my teenage nephews tenting at a reasonably distant location. When I inspired Dad to inform my brother about his coronary heart situation so he might make an knowledgeable choice in regards to the security of the journey, or at the very least put together my nephews in case one thing occurred, Dad went by the roof! He insists he’s not sick and I’ve no enterprise sharing his medical data. More probably he doesn’t wish to admit he’s getting older or might must cancel the journey.
I’ve to inform my brother if Dad received’t, but when I do, I’m positive I’ll by no means get extra data, and Dad will stop speaking to me altogether. Is there any method round this that I’m not seeing? — LEVELHEADED DAUGHTER IN DETROIT
DEAR DAUGHTER: The security of your brother’s youngsters is paramount. Your father doesn’t have the fitting to put them in danger, which he’ll due to his carelessness about his well being state of affairs.
Your father might not prefer it, however it’s crucial that you just warn your brother so he could make an knowledgeable choice about whether or not to permit an unsupervised tenting journey with Grandpa. (The answer could also be that one other grownup shall be included to regulate issues.)
DEAR ABBY: After I had emergency surgical procedure, I used to be moved to a different location in my work division. I met an exquisite younger man and, as we communicated, we discovered we had rather a lot in widespread. I by no means imagined I’d ever discover a soul mate, however we fell in love.
He is married; I’m not. He is loving and thoughtful as a lot as he may be. I like him a lot, however I really feel horrible about our state of affairs. I really feel it’s unfair — particularly to me. I would like greater than he can provide to me when it comes to a relationship.
I do know I’ve tousled. Again. I’d like to stay buddies, however that’s all. How do I inform him? I don’t wish to have drama on the job. I’ve been making use of for different jobs away from this place. I assumed that it could resolve the issue. — UNFAIR SITUATION
DEAR UNFAIR: Remaining “just friends” is probably not practical. Tell this excellent younger man the affair is over as a result of it wasn’t honest to you or his spouse. Once you’ve got secured one other job, give your employer two weeks discover and get out of there.
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